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Torsion
May 16th, 2004, 10:40 pm
Recently, I had one of the worst expiriences with the opposite sex ever. I thought I would share it with you guys because I know most of you have been there and back.

Well, the occasion this weekend was the senior ball. Basically, the senior ball is basically a prom in which I am obligated to spend all my money and go to because I am obligated by society to do so. This year, the theme was called, "a night at the oscars". We were all supposed to be like celebrity actors going to an awards show. Fair enough; The theme at least sounded kinda cool. We were even having it at the killington grand hotel, which is a really nice area and ballroom.

My date this year was a girl who I met in school who I've been friends with for a while. We have never really been dating each other, but we have always had a good relationship. We seemed to get along quite well together as well. Since me and her were both single at the time, we kinda agreed like a month ago that we would go to the prom together. Although we were going as good friends, I probably would have liked to ask her if she wanted a more serious relationship because I thought we had good chemistry and we seemingly got along well together. She is quite good looking as well. Up until yesterday, she seemed very enthusiastic about going and were were making plans to have a great time. I let her do all the planning because she wanted to set it all up.

My first indication of potential problems was when i asked her when she wanted me to pick her up. She said that she wanted to take her dads car so that she could go back home if she got tired. She said she had to work during the day so she wanted to be able to leave if she got tired. I was a little concerned because usually the guy is supposed to pick up the date but I figured that it was okay because she just wanted to be able to leave if she got really tired. I even called her again and asked if she wanted a ride and i mentioned I could bring her home early but she still said no.

When I got to the restaurant I looked for her everywhere but could not find her. I should mention that it had been raining and thunderstorming all day and that it was stiflingly hot everywhere. Eventually I saw her with a group of people and went over to say hi. Basically, she said hi and then proceeded to pay no attention to me whatesoever during dinner. I bought her a bracelet thing with roses on it because that is the gentlemanly thing to do and she said thanks and put it on the ground. She had us seated with like 16 other people who were all mostly annoying. I had to listen to their mind- numingly boring conversations about stupid stuff the entire time. Later, she took a group pee break and during this time I am almost sure she threw away the bracelet I bought her.

This girl also has the worst table manners I have seen. In fact, almost all these people did. I had to pick this persons napkin off the ground three times over the course of dinner. My "date" started putting her half eaten salad back in the salad bowl. I was like, "what are you doing, other people might want some." She was like, "I dont care". After she was done, she started complaining because she did not have any cigaretes. I had no idea she smoked. She was like, "I need a cigarete right now!" Then her and 2 of her friends got up and left on a mission to go buy cigaretes.

Then, I was left in this place with these people who I hated and my date had left me. All the other people going to the prom were all leaving because they had gotten their checks. The reason we didnt was because our waiter was obviously stoned. See, the Killington area only hires the finest people. He was completely innept and made the first check wrong and kept messing up. We had to get the manager to get us seperate checks so we could pay. This took about an hour. The whole process was made more complicated because people kept leaving so we had to figure out who ordered what and whose money was whos. All this time I was feeling terrible because my date basically ignored and then deserted me on purpose.

After this fiasco I decided just to go up to the grand anyways because I paid $20 for a ticket. I had to arrive without a date which is very embarrasing because they have a red carpet and cameras and stuff so it sucked walking in alone. Once I actually got to the ballroom it was alright because I just hung out with my friends and stuff. It sucked though because I had to explain how I got stood up to everyone so i could explain why I was dateless. Still, there were a lot of kids who were dateless so it wasnt that bad. The music sucked though and the DJs were annoying as hell. They had some cool decorations and movie posters on the walls. At one point, the DJs put on some rock song and people started dancing "too much". Then they lowered the volume to bearly audible levels and people continued to dance. Eventually, they just shut it off and went to the next song. That part was kinda funny.

My "date" actually made an appearance at the prom and basically would not talk to me at all. So I just ignored her as well and had a good time as best I could. Everyone started to take off like an hour before the prom officially ended so I just left. I really was not in the mood for an afterparty at that point so I just drove home and went to sleep.

This was just a sucky, horrible expirience and I am very angry with my "date" I am never going to talk to her after that. She really was not the person I thought she was. How can you justify that kind of abusive behavior to yourself? I sure can not. Even if I had the ugliest date, I would never have ditched her as long as she was nice to me. I resent being excess bagage for some bitch who wants a free ride to the prom. I really hope women in college are better than this because everything I have expirienced in highshool just sucks. Its always the same old story. You think you know someone and they go and do something like this. I almost wish I was butt ugly, retarded, or missing some part of my body so I would not have to date these people anymore.

Hope you all enjoyed my little story. Any advice on what I should do to get back at her would be appreciated. :mad:

Feuerwizard
May 16th, 2004, 11:11 pm
Oh Zach, sorry to hear your story!

So I just ignored her as well and had a good time as best I could.

Good decision :thumbup:

I really hope women in college are better than this because everything I have expirienced in highshool just sucks.

Well I had very good experiences in highschool, and now I have a 2 years serious relationship with my gf, so I´m not the right person to tell u how good or how bad are the women in college or in highschool.

Nova
May 16th, 2004, 11:16 pm
Damn man, that really sucks. You're not alone though, my prom wasn't really any better. I went dateless from the start but seeing how my friends couldn't stand their date and spent more time at my table than theirs, it wasn't such a bad thing.

It sucks that the girl was such a *censored*. I do hope you'll find a way to get back at her :evil:

RHooks
May 17th, 2004, 12:00 am
Dude. That was one harsh night. I would cut her loose and file it under life lessons learned. I wouldn't worry about getting back or have anything else to do with her. She is quite obviously not worth your time. Don't let this one experience change your outlook on all females. They are definitely not all like this one.

:face4:

Kalbrecht
May 17th, 2004, 12:17 am
Dude. That was one harsh night. I would cut her loose and file it under life lessons learned. I wouldn't worry about getting back or have anything else to do with her. She is quite obviously not worth your time. Don't let this one experience change your outlook on all females. They are definitely not all like this one.

Agreed with RHooks.

She ain't worth the time, for revenge, talking or thinking about.

Torsion
May 17th, 2004, 12:31 am
I was joking about the getting revenge part. Thanks for the advice though.

Shaolin K
May 17th, 2004, 01:32 am
Sorry to hear you had such a bad time at your prom. I'm probably the wrong person to give any kind of advice on this topic since this is not my generation. When I went to High School, this kind of behaviour would've never occured. But maybe that's because I went to High School in a small(er) town as well. I actually went to Prom four times in High School and never had a bad time. Anyway.......

That kind of behaviour is absolutely despicable. Don't waste another thought on this girl. You'll see that life has a funny way of giving people what they deserve. You may not be there to see it, but I'm sure that this girl will get into some unpleasant (for her and everyone around her) situations because of her behaviour one day. The main thing is that you learned from this experience and probably never have to go through something like this again.

Oh, and as far as I remember (it's been a while since I was in High School), the girls in college are definitely "better" than what you described in your story.

Circlebreaker
May 17th, 2004, 05:49 am
Ouch, that was harsh of her. At least now you know what kind of person she is, and that you shouldn't waste anymore time with her. It's off course always painful to lose people you thought were friends like that, but sometimes people just aren't worth your friendship, and you have to cut them loose.

I wish I could say that girls in college will be better, but you'll always find people like that. At least in college there will be a lot more people walking around, so your choice should be much bigger. :wink:

Mara
May 17th, 2004, 07:43 am
My sympathies, Torsion, she acted very badly. She obviously has no class. She's not worthy of being seen with you so I'd just write her off. And, as RHooks said, not all females are like this one.

Gotanypop
May 17th, 2004, 08:31 am
There is nothing wrong with going to a prom "stag". Going with someone just for the sake of not going alone is inviting disaster. I went to my prom stag and met someone that I had a 2 year relationship with after high school.

I used to be in a lot of classes with her but never really though about her that way. I asked her to dance, we started to talk and wow! we had chemistry. She looked real good all dolled up too. I never really noticed her before, she always dressed kind of tomboyish. Man, she looked good in that dress:wink:. People's lives take different turns and sometimes they grow apart.

There will be all kinds of women in your life. Some will rip the heart out of your chest and stomp on it. Some you won't give a rat's ass about when they are gone. A precious few will make you smile to think about them for the rest of your life. Keep the faith man.

Nova
May 17th, 2004, 08:58 am
I was joking about the getting revenge part. Thanks for the advice though.

I wasn't...

Don't look at me like that :wtf:










No, really, I was.

Chylde Roland
May 17th, 2004, 11:10 am
sorry to hear it went so craptastically, Zach.

I agree with RHooks and Kalbrecht: lesson learned, cut her loose, and move on the the next adventure! Trust me, there are some bad "ladies" out there, but there are also many, many more who are well worth the time and effort to get to know!

Have fun!

Bruenor
May 17th, 2004, 11:35 am
What a crappy night on what is supposed to be an “important” high school rite of passage. I agree with the other guys here, just cut her loose and move on. I also speak with experience as I played a similar role as this girl back at my own Grad/Prom.

Eddie Ismail
May 17th, 2004, 12:08 pm
Sorry to hear this, dude.

but if you have been following my posts recently you'd know that I'm a mess with women, mainly because I always try to befriemd them, then move on to be something more serious.

one of the girls I "dated" became my best friend, and she told me that my problem was that I don't specify the nature of the relationship from the beginning. taking her advice, I asked a girl I liked out, took her out to a movie, and made sure she knows that I'm interested in her more than just a friend.

now this girl is my girlfriend, I'm having a blast with her, and everyone is happy.

lesson is, in college you *the guy* have to make sure what you want, and make it obvious, hope this helps in your college years.

BTW listen to the guy, forget about her, one day she might even call you and ask you out *happens to me alot* then just agree, nad stand her up, sweet sweet revenge, she ain't gonna be watiching a movie and having a meal for free that night ;)

Mr. Natural
May 17th, 2004, 12:12 pm
Definitely a life lesson which we all have to go through. We've all been through something like that before. Welcome to the club! :): Keep that memory for future reference.
Don't worry, karma will be sure to allow it so that she will "have her day" and more. Let it go and wait and see. You'll hear about sometime down the road.

Dan Speziale
May 17th, 2004, 01:19 pm
As hard as that night was for you, at least you didn't have any real emotional investment in this girl and then had your heart broken. It would have been far worse if you had actually liked her, been hoping for romance and then had this happen. The think about the table manners... I'd say that you got off cheap in this case. What if she had been out with your family or even some of your good friends? I think you saved yourself some embarassment.

I will say that it sounds like you have a terrific attitude about this and you seem to have a generous nature. It was more than nice of you to get her a bracelet. There's going to be a girl in the future who will appreciate that. The girls I met in college were worlds different (and much more appreciative of me) than the ones I knew in high school.

DanTheManPR
May 17th, 2004, 06:59 pm
I was joking about the getting revenge part. Thanks for the advice though.

Eh, revenge isn't worth it anyway.

Terry Penrod
May 17th, 2004, 07:26 pm
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Well that just sucks Torsion.

But as everyone above has said, at least she didn't break your heart, embarrass you in front of your own family and close friends or stop you from having a little fun at the prom. So just chalk it up to the general suckiness of life as a teenager, move on and try to avoid selfish, shallow people like her in the future. They really aren't worth it and yes, you are a better person than they.

Cheers, Terry

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Torsion
May 17th, 2004, 09:30 pm
Thanks for all the help guys. I feel much better now and I am totally over it and moving on. I know that all people are not like that because I have had a few good relationships that all fizzled out over time. Still, I wanted to have a good prom and now I will have this sour memory when I look back on it later. Thanks again everyone!

Rafal Dudek
May 18th, 2004, 01:03 am
wish I could help ya but the girl I met bout 6 years ago is still with me :): and we never went to any highschool prom thing either. We were smart enough to know it was a waste of time and money =P

Eddie Ismail
May 20th, 2004, 05:54 pm
Raf is holding nails and teeth to his girlfriend ;) this girl I'd like to meet

Rafal Dudek
May 20th, 2004, 06:21 pm
dont get me wrong, we've had a few good arguments that got us to break up twice heh. But shhhhh dont remind her in case she reads these forums =P

Terry Penrod
May 21st, 2004, 01:15 am
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But shhhhh dont remind her in case she reads these forums =P




But you just did, didn't you?

Cheers, Terry

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